Women by nature, put themselves last. The needs of the family come first. Is it selfish to make a change that has a lasting impact on your loved ones?
If we follow the advice of the airlines, the answer is no. Put your oxygen mask on first and then help the person next to you. Your child or as one stewardess joked, the person next to you acting like a child.
It is not selfish at all. When we take care of ourselves first, we are stronger and more able to give to those that need us.